Friends’ Chandler Scene That Hasn’t Aged Well

The Jurassic Park ride at Universal Studios. Orlando likes to remind us that time is a river that never runs dry. “Friends” hasn’t aged well in every respect. As Vulture pointed out, “Friends” popularised the concept of the friend zone, making cross-gender friendships infinitely more difficult. With episodes like Chandler duping a woman into sleeping with him by setting up a fake date with her ex. Joey accusing a stripper of stealing from him, and Ross dating a student, the show’s take on dating was very ’90s. Even David Schwimmer, who played Ross Geller on the show, bemoaned the lack of diversity on the show and attempted to rectify the situation by attempting to date women of colour. Activists for body positivity have also targeted.

Every character on “Friends,” including Gunther, has some behaviour that is cringe-worthy in the twenty-first century. Chandler’s extreme homophobia is an example of this. “Friends” was always open about LGBT issues. Ross’ lesbian ex-wife is a regular character throughout the show, and one of the show’s creators is gay. Carol and Susan’s civil union was a watershed moment for queer visibility on primetime television. Chandler, however, as the show’s Funny One, makes a lot of homophobic and/or gender-policing jokes. Chandler was originally conceived as a potentially gay character, which is ironic. “Instead of having the character be gay, they decided to have everyone just think he’s gay.”  Matt Baume wrote for LGBTQ Nation. ‘Write it gay,’ the writers were told.

Could Chandler BE any meaner to his dad?


Because his father is gay, Chandler’s homophobia stands out among the rest of the cast. His origin storey explains why he makes jokes, smokes, and struggles with commitment. Furthermore, Chandler holds his father responsible for the family’s “abandonment.”  In Season 5’s “The One with All the Thanksgivings,” Chandler’s mother announces his parents’ divorce, citing Mr. Bing’s desire to “sleep with the house-boy rather than me.”  Chandler appears to have interpreted his father’s coming out as a rejection of the family. And he also expresses embarrassment at his father’s gender-nonconforming appearance. Chandler’s father, according to co-creator Marta Kauffman (via Washington Post).

We learn in Season 7’s “The One with Chandler’s Dad” that Chandler not only does not intend to invite his father to his wedding with Monica, but has also refused contact with him for years.  “He’s called, written letters, and even travelled to New York.”  He tells Monica, “but I’ve always said I’m too busy to see him.” When we learn that Chandler has cut off all communication due to a mixture of shame and anger, this is the scene that goes too far. Thankfully, by the end of the episode, he and his father are on the verge of forming a genuine bond. Helena Handbasket is invited to Chandler’s wedding, where his mother claims she has “a little too much.”

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