Barney is actually quite a sad character in How I Met Your Mother, and these are the saddest things about him.
He Grew Up In A Dysfunctional Home
he saddest thing about Barney is that he grew up in such a dysfunctional home, it’s really no wonder he grew up into an insecure egotist. Who he grew up to be is not really his fault. His mother Loretta lied about who his father was and she always prioritized having fun over taking care of her own son. To make matters worse, he was bullied at school and Loretta lied to him about the reality of things in order to protect his feelings.
No one ever took the responsibility to raise Barney into a functioning adult. It’s actually pretty amazing that he finished his education and became financially independent.
His Happy-Go-Lucky Persona Is An Act
Barney always seems to be in a great mood. He is excited about everything he does, be it flirting, playing laser tag or getting Ted to bend to his will. As the series progress and we find out about his miserable past, it seems as if he has finally left his demons behind. He went from being a hopeless naive hippy to a confident business man that his college girlfriend dumped him for.
Barney probably told himself that he wants to be like that man as he seems to have it all: money, cars and women. He is really good at pretending he is happy and since we never see him alone without his friends around, it’s hard to know how he is when he ends up home alone, with no hook up to keep him company and to watch him pretend he is happy.
He Doesn’t Trust His Girlfriends
They ultimately break up because they confess that they don’t really trust each other. Why exactly they don’t consider each other trustworthy is never explored on the show.
He Compares Himself To Others
Barney’s insecurity also shows when he keeps competing with Marshall when it comes to the title of being Ted’s best friend. It is absolutely tragic to see him struggle to win over Ted’s affection. It’s hard not to feel bad about him when Ted continuously tells him that it’s Marshall that is actually his #1 best friend and always will be
The saddest thing is Barney’s sole focus on being Ted’s friend. In the process of trying to be his bro, he rarely notices what is actually going on in Ted’s life and fails to consider his needs.
A Portrait Of A Contemporary Consumer
Barney is obsessed with always looking stylish and has spent an entire fortune on his suits as well as his flat. He once bought a TV so big and shiny that it was impossible to watch. Obsessed with being up-to-date when it comes to other tech gadgets too, this is his way of trying to obtain happiness. He has convinced himself that money can buy him happiness. What else would his soul-sucking corporate job be good for if not for making bank?
Barney’s obsession with appearances and fashion is something that plagues all of us to some extent. While being financially secure is something we all desire, spending all that wealth on status symbols didn’t benefit Barney at all.
He Doesn’t Understand Friendships
Barney met Ted at the urinal and decided to teach him how to live. After Barney falsely thought that Ted helped him get a girl’s number, the rest was history. Barney needed a wing man and Ted just happened to be there. The group seems to be perfect most of the time, but they also often wonder why exactly they are friends with Barney, which is understandable, but also cruel and dishonest.